The Most Important Relationship

Did you go through the yearly ritual of setting your goals?

My resolution for 2009:
Improving The most important relationship in my life; The one I have with myself.
Not for selfish reasons but for the simple fact that if I can't get along with myself, I can't have good relationships with the people in my life: family, friends, business partners and clients.
Even since "The Secret" came out most of us have been aware of the control our thoughts have over our lives. But "All too often, we reserve our harshest criticisms and our most negative thoughts for ourselves." says Robert Stubert in an article in Success Magazine.
Robert points out that "the first step in managing your relationship with yourself is to determine what you actually think about yourself".

I'm ahead of the game, I've read "The Slight Edge" by Jeff Olson last year and went through the journey of discovering what Jeff calls "My Philosophy" or how I see things which in turn determines my attittudes and actions. It has a surprising journey to say the least, one that I'm grateful to have been on.
I've discovered that I have an Olympics Game Philosophy. Let me explain...
I see the world as a non ending competition field: you either win or lose, no in
between. Second place is for the first loser. I have to bring the "Gold" home every time. This is exhausting! The worse is that I never give myself permission to enjoy my accomplishments. No matter what I do , I never feel I've done enough.
Do you sometimes feel that way?
This "stinking thinking" has held me back in my business, career and personal life.
This is why I've decided to work on me this year.

What stands between success and me, is just me.
Edmund Hillary who was one of the first man to reach the top of Mount Everest, the highest spot on Earth said "It's not the mountain we conquer but ourselves".
The problem is not with the company, products ,compensation plan or other people, the problem is getting out of our own way and going for it as if we knew for sure we couldn't fail.

As Zig Ziglar says, "Success is the doing, not the getting; in the trying, not the
triumph".